Well, my husband isn't one of those...
In the rare occasion in which he manifests lots of enthusiasm, something fabulously incredible and magnificent has happened.
Last night, during kickoff, we witnessed one of those special moments, and it didn't have to do at all with the Giants' victory. Our friend and fabulous cook J (or Y), had promised my husband he would invite him for a BBQ if the New York team made it to the Super Bowl.
When my husband bit into the juicy, crusty and soft steak, he suffered a transformation: his face glowed and his smile found a new dimension, extending itself into bliss.
He really enjoyed it! He didn't indulge. He freely, happily and plainly enjoyed his steak. Then he ignored Madonna, finished watching the game, worked a bit, and slept. Woke up the next morning and went on with his day. He didn't feel guilty, more masculine, rougher, or more powerful. He just had a great meal the previous night.
Which brings me to something I started noticing since I moved to the U.S more than a decade ago. I find it to happen especially, but not exclusively, within the female gender and I don't know if it's reflected in and/or produced by pop culture and media advertising: If you eat something delicious, you must somehow be sinning. You are eating it, but you must feel guilty, and at the same time, you should let the guilt go while you eat it. You can feel bad after consumption and go to the gym (or resort to alternative behaviors to un-eat and un-do the sinful did). But in the meanwhile, doing the bad is good, but very bad (Ehhh?).
Which makes everything VERY confusing.
I just googled "indulgence" looking for the definition of the word, and besides the Merriam-Webster entry that follows (and the Wiki one, of course!), a couple of bakery shops/products named "indulgence" showed up in the search. The dictionary indicated that indulgence is a: "remission of part or all of the temporal and especially purgatorial punishment that according to Roman Catholicism is due for sins whose eternal punishment has been remitted and whose guilt has been pardoned..."
Thesaurus.com indicated that some other words for "indulgence" are: allowance, appeasement, babying, excess, extravagance, forbearance, fulfillment, gratifying, hedonism, immoderation, intemperance, intemperateness, leniency, pampering, permissiveness, petting, placating, pleasing, privilege, profligacy, profligateness, satiation, satisfaction, spoiling, toleration.
In my oppinion, the following image, taken from a wrapper of a Dove (TM) Promises (TM) chocolate candy summarizes the whole phenomenon:
Or just check this Betty Crocker's Warm Delights (TM) commercial:
My question is: why?????
Why do we have to give these associations to food? Yes, it's true that food has meaning: it reminds us of certain things or times, traditions, experiences, identity, people places or relations, but a simple and impersonal piece of mass produced, machine-wrapped chocolate, a microwaved cake or an ice cream scoop should be satisfying for a couple of minutes and then we should be able to move on, and not turn it into a theological and/or moral dilemma.
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